Visiting private parties

Getting invitations and accepting the right ones

Private parties are great…but unfortunately they are not open for everybody. Therefore, you need an invitation. There are some ways to join very cool parties. Perhaps an old friend of yours moved to another city. If he or she's planning a big party, you shouldn't be too lazy. Take the chance and visit him or her. Flights aren't that expensive. Partying in another city is always a great thing. If you are visiting old friends who don't feel like organizing a party themselves, you can tell them to watch out for private parties of their friends. If you're studying in a foreign country, you should stay close to those people who seem to be cool. There's a high probability that they'll take you with them to an off-da-hook party. The same applies to colleagues if you are working abroad.

In any case, you must make sure, that you're getting admission to meetings that deserve the name party. When someone is inviting you, you should asked some questions like, "how many people are coming", "what they are planning to do" and so on. Your intuition will tell you if this is going to be a party that is worth your time. If you lack this kind of intuition, you'll learn how to distinguish between good and wack parties after spending some frustrating nights with boring people. In some cases, it makes sense to start with the boring parties. There you might meet people that will invite you to better gatherings. So step by step you can get access to the really cool circles.

Once you are accepted among the cool people and they think you are cool as well, you'll get more and more invitations.

Getting ready for the party

You've to distinguish between short time preparation and long-range party preparation. Long time preparation includes things like developing a clothing style, shaping the body in a fitness studio or tanning. Short time preparation means picking the right clothes on the evening and similar tasks.

The most successful party people are not only party people for one night a year, they are fulltime party people. They always try to improve their personal style. They read magazines that inform about the latest trends. They go to stores and try different clothes until they found something that really suits them. Sporty people are usually highly desired at parties. Therefore going to the fitness studio for some month is a good idea to improve your appearance at parties. Obviously, some month and a lot of hard work are required until some changes will be noticeable. Don't give up. Hard work will pay-off!

On the day of the party, you should first of all make sure that you are in good condition. Therefore, you should get enough sleep the night before and you shouldn't work too hard on the day of the party if avoidable.

Furthermore, you have to make sure that you look right. So get your clothes ready, get you nails and hair done. Hopefully you packed the right clothes into your suitcase. A complete outfit not only consists of skirts or pants, and tops, you have to take care of shoes, sexy underwear, jewelry and much more as well. Girls should also take the appropriate beauty items with them. The right make-up can be crucial for a successful night! All of this means some work. Don't be lazy- you want to party, don't you.

Meeting cool people at private parties

At the party, you have to select the right flirt strategy. The three most important things you have to do: Be cool, be cool, and be cool… Parties are all about being cool. If you're sitting alone in the corner, you will be considered to be shy. Talk to many people. The cooler the people you are talking are the cooler you are. Don't try to start some high-minded conservation. Small talk is better. However, the conversation shouldn't become to stereotype. Show the person you are talking to that you are interested. Don't ask one question after the other. Keep the conversation running. Of course, you need some practice. At the beginning, you might have some problems but if you never train it, you'll never learn it.

One important thing is to get the right moment to switch conversation partners. The worst thing you can do is to apparently stick to one person because you don't dare to talk to other people. Nobody likes barnacles except barnacles. The best thing you can do is to terminate the conversation after some time and to find other people to talk to quickly.

The most difficult thing is to get on a physical level with people you are interested in. In a club, it is much easier to get physical contact than at a party. That's because in clubs dancing is usual. At a party, you have to talk to each other. You have to feel if your partner is interested in more than just talking to you. Sometimes a conversation is going very fluently but your partner is just interested in talking. Sometime the eyes and body language say more than the mouth. You have to learn to read these signs.

When you have the impression that both of you are interested you can propose to switch rooms. For the start suggesting going to the kitchen and getting something to drink should be a good idea. If the party has an indoor part and an outdoor part, you may propose to go outside or inside. There you might be less disturbed and you can continue conversation. If everything is working right, you can start hugging and kissing.

Different ways of leaving a party

If you go well together and it's getting hotter and hotter, you have to find a place to get down. Perhaps you are staying at the house during the night and a room has been assigned to you. In this case, you two have a place to go to. The same is true if your partner has a room in the house. If you don't have one you have to be somewhat more creative. Perhaps you can use a car or somebody else's room. In any case, don't forget about contraception.