After-Party management

Gettin' rid of a lover

This section is particularly interesting for girls- You meet someone last night? You didn't like him but gave your number since you tried to be nice? You made a big mistake! You even kissed him or had a one-night stand? Now you have to find a way to get out!

When someone is pushing you to give him your number why not giving a fake number? This way you will avoid difficult explanations later on. However, if you already made the mistake you have to get through. You can tell him straight that you were just in a partying mood and don't really like him. If he isn't willing to accept this at once you can tell some stories about your boy friend no matter if there is one or not. Tell him friendly but directly that you don't want to see him any more. Sometime girls pretend that they like him. Then he proposes something like e.g. "let go to the park this afternoon" and girls are like "Great, but this weekend, I must see my aunt. Oh…next weekend I have to learn for college." Girls, guys never give up if you don't tell them right away, what you are thinking. Many guys will call you over an over and ask you again. As longer as you don't talk to them frankly, they will raise hope. Finally, it's going to be really difficult for you to get out.

If you had a one-night stand basically the same is true. It takes some more courage to say that you just wanted to have fun. That's sometimes hard for girls. Don't try to be nice you might get hooked on him. Tell him that the night with him was great but you don't wish to have it once more. Don't give him your number. Hopefully you carefully thought about contraception. Still you should try to get his number since he might be liable to pay alimentation nine month later. However, don't even think about calling if there is no serious reason.

Keep in touch

Was last night a good night for you? Did you meet someone you like? Now you have to keep in touch. Hopefully you asked for the phone number.

You should call soon. If you met on Friday, you can call the next afternoon. Sometimes you will be disappointed. The person you really seemed to be crazy for you isn't interested any more. But that's how things are. Sometime guys or girls only want to have fun for one night, whatever that means.

If you are luckier and the person you are calling is still interested in you, you have to make the right proposal. How about taking a walk in the park? Or meeting in a fancy coffee? You should choose a place where everybody feels comfortable. So don't of thinking of inviting your date directly to your bedroom. That's just to fast.

When talking to each other you will see if you like each other as well by day. If so, you could meet on a regular basis.

Rethink strategy

You last weekend wasn't that successful? No problem, next weekend will be better if you are willing to change some things. Be self-confident but stay critical as well. What factors might be responsible that your last weekend wasn't that successful?

Did your friends give you a drawback? Did you drink too much? Did you act to fraught? All of these factors might be able to spoil your weekend.

Sometimes friends get jealous when you are trying to flirt. That's because they want to flirt too but are not courageous enough to try. Therefore, their main goal for the night is to hinder you to have a good flirt. They talk too much to you, they ask you to change places when you just found someone you want get in touch with. Next time you better look for other people to join you.

Another problem particularly for guys is excessive drinking. Sometime guys are to shy to approach girls. So they start to drink a drink. After the drink, they feel kind of better but yet need another drink. After the second drink they feel like girls aren't that important at the end of the night all there money is spend on alcohol and the girls are only laughing about them. Don't be one of these guys! Control your self. You are going out to flirt and not to get drunk.

If you are going to the club and your claim is, "Tonight I'm not leaving alone" you might put yourself under pressure. When at a party you should party and not only thing about not going home alone. When you are, a bit more relaxed things will happen easily. Be a cool guy or girl. Take your time. If not next weekend, one of the subsequent will be better. Watch out but don't push yourself.